break ups
do males deal with breakup differently? if so, how different and why?
do you guys reminisce or remember anything about the ex or the relationship?
do you guys reminisce or remember anything about the ex or the relationship?
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Permalink Reply by Chaz on -
of course we do (if we truly like/love the person)...at least I do.
Often times it's much harder for the guy, because not only his heart is broken, but his ego also.
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Permalink Reply by bebecreole on -
how do you guys grieve?
thanks for the response chaz.
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Permalink Reply by Lyn on -
most men do not show their emotions to the world as women tend to do
If they are really really into you AND want you back they may keep contact going....or if they did something bad to you, they want to remain friends to SAVE face...pou m pa rayi yo...but other times...they stay away from you...the whole been there done that, see ya sort of thing...especially if the woman keeps on rehashing the past, bringing up stuff that they DO NOT want to discuss...
se sa zanmi m yo dim...and most of my friends are males :)
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Permalink Reply by bebecreole on
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Lyn, thanks as usual.
Can you tell me again under what circumstances would the man not want any contact with the woman?
What if the relationship did not end on a bad note?
I can't understand why anyone would want to be enemy or lose any contact with someone they used to share intimate moments with/love when the relationship did not end on a bad note.
Feel free to comments on this people:-)
Could it be to save face too?
Chaz, thanks again!
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Permalink Reply by Lyn on
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then you have not loved truly...
when you love and love takes over...it has to run its course anvan w ka let go...
if you are still controlling your emotions...lanmou pako anpote w :)
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Permalink Reply by Chaz on
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Mezanmi! Konsa men-m?
That explains it....it's a Boston thing...LOL
Mezanmi, jan mwen sansub!
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Permalink Reply by Lyn on
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that means you HAVE MOURNED before??? LMAO men kounye an wap pale :)
sooooooooooo you still will go through mourning but you will be more knowledgeable about the whole thing, knowing that this too shall pass...voila ma gloire :)
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Permalink Reply by bebecreole on
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SP, I have a feeling that's how you would like to be which sounds quite logical. However, realistically speaking if you really love the person you'll remininisce and be hurt to an extent. You may not dwell on it like others but you'll be affected somehow at least for a little while. Love does not die overnight.
I've thought of what you stated but it's easier said than done. Good luck with the current lover:-)
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Permalink Reply by Chaz on
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SP, I am afraid that "as a result" , there might be that tendency of carrying your past into current relationship....thus putting everyone in the same bag....risking making an innocent person pay for the errors of past acquaintances.
Bebe....either way you put it, someone will suffer, because love in every relationship, there is always one who loves the other more. There are several steps that one must endure after a breakup....(1) The "I can't believe" step (2) The "missing that person" step..where every song, his/her perfume brings back memories (3) the "upset/Mad at you" step...where you wish he/she was never born (4) the "survival" step...where you've realized that he/she is gone for good (5) the "upset/Mad at you" step...this time you start blaming yourself...you start looking back at the signs.
The only thing you can do is muster enough strength to go through those steps. just take courage in knowing that you've done all that you could, and that you gave it your best.
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Permalink Reply by Lyn on
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men hurt they don't talk about it to just anyone :)
men diferans lan...yo pap bay manti di ke yo pap miss moun lan..even they will admit that they either miss her cooking, her laughter, jan ke fanm lan te anfom...etc...meaning they will show that they do miss something about the person but pou w di ke yo bliye moun lan like this like that jan w vle fe moun panse an...nah...se sel si neg sa a pat renmen fanm lan tout bon...and even then yap di w si yo byen ak ou anpil ke yo miss something from her...bel gouyad or sousad manmzel kan menm :) gason pa finn engra konsa pou yo pa admet le yon fanm te bon pou ou whether they loved her or not :)
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